‘Sexsomnia’: Inside One Man’s Unusual Affliction

I live with a sleep disorder that makes me initiate sex in my sleep. Before I learned from it, I feared it deeply. If you have trouble reading this message, view it in a browser.       'Someone Else Was At the Wheel': What It's Like to Have Sexsomnia   "I have sexsomnia, a sleep abnormality that causes me to initiate sex when I'm asleep," writes an annonymous author for Esquire. "Think of sleepwalking, but instead of walking I, well, you know. Those of us who've got what the DSM-5 calls non-REM sleep-arousal disorder, which research has found to be as much as three times as prevalent in men as in women, are prone to fondling a partner, performing oral sex, and even engaging in full-on penetrative sex and reaching orgasm, all while completely asleep. For me, as I understand is common, it flares up when I'm stressed, sleep-deprived, going to bed drunk, and particularly some combination of all three. I've only recently learned that there's a name for this disorder. For years, I've just thought of it as something—or someone—that activates inside me at night." Here, the author explains the feeling of having someone else at the wheel. Read More           New Balance's U.S.-Made 993s Should Be the Foundation of Your Sneaker Rotation   "At the ripe age of 31, I never thought I'd be looking for a walking shoe," writes Esquire's Ben Boskovich. "And yet, as the pandemic snatched away the only resemblance of a fitness routine I had (living and commuting in New York City), the post-work walk was suddenly an activity for which I needed to outfit myself. Nepotism Alert: I found myself clicking on Esquire's list of the best walking shoes out there right now. Lo and behold, I found a pair that'd functionally satisfy my new workout, and work with just about anything in my wardrobe." Boskovich reveals that it was New Balance's made-in-the-USA 993. Here's why—whether long walks are your cup of tea or not—it's the right sneaker to ground your entire rotation. Read More           Summer Is the Perfect Time to Debut Great Pair of High Tops. Here Are 19 We Love.   As much as we would love to make a "Hey, wanna get high" joke right now, let's skip all that and get right to the other drug we need to talk about: sneakers. High-top sneakers, specifically. After thorough investigation (read: asking a couple non-fashion-oriented friends and then googling the question), we've discovered that some people do not think that high-top sneakers are for them. These people worry that high-tops are not in style, or that they won't know what to wear with them, or that they simply don't know which pair to choose. To that, we say: They are, we'll cover that, and keep reading. Read More           The 30 Best Mother's Day Gifts You Can Order From Amazon   Being the best son you can be means getting mom a really thoughtful gift for Mother's Day that shows her just how much you appreciate her. Nowhere in the contract does it stipulate you can't shop for said gift from the comfort of your couch, with the option of free shipping with a few days' turnaround (in case you're cutting it close). So for you, the best—and most efficient—son in the world, we've found 30 Mother's Day gift ideas on Amazon that are all pretty damn good. Whether she like homey comforts, style upgrades, or the newest tech, you'll find her present here. Read More           Kindness Towards a Child Isn't the Highest Bar for an American President, But Here We Are   Esquire's Charles P. Pierce was thinking on Tuesday that the president would be a terrific undertaker. First of all, he's been proven to be very good at wakes and funerals. Second, he looks the part; I can envision him in the long black cashmere coat, wrangling cars into line for the drive to the cemetery. And last, and most important, he has a deep and abiding empathy. He carries his personal tragedies with great dignity, and employs them only when it is absolutely called for. On Tuesday, as they conducted a memorial service for Capitol Police Officer Billy Evans in the Rotunda, Pierce explains why he deployed it in the gentlest way possible. Read More           James Baldwin: How to Cool It   In Esquire's July 1968 issue, published just after the death of Martin Luther King, Jr., the magazine talked to James Baldwin about the state of race relations in the country. As that same country, more than 50 years later, struggles with the progress Baldwin speaks of, the landmark Q&A on race in America remains prescient. Read More         Read More on Esquire.com       Follow Us     Unsubscribe  Privacy Notice   esquire.com ©2021 Hearst Communications Inc. All Rights Reserved. Hearst Email Privacy, 300 W 57th St., Fl. 19 (sta 1-1), New York, NY 10019