Ever read a story that kept getting wilder and wilder? The kind in which one detail makes you raise an eyebrow, then the next makes you raise both eyebrows, and then at the next you practically raise your entire forehead? Well, this week's installment of our Secret Lives of Men series is exactly that kind of story. We assigned Esquire contributor Rosael Torres-Davis to find and interview a "performative male," someone who weaponizes emotional intelligence to seduce women. Not only did she find one—she found one with a particularly wild story. Read it below. – Chris Hatler, deputy editor |
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She and I told ourselves we were consenting adults, and we were. What I didn't consider was that my authority as a professor remained, even though the semester was over. |
Years ago, after my wife and I first opened our relationship, I dated a student 12 years younger than I was. It began after she was no longer in my class, in that gray area professors like to pretend is ethically clean. She and I told ourselves we were consenting adults, and we were. What we did not say was that my authority had not evaporated just because the semester had ended. It was brief, intense, and secret. I buried it carefully and continued to build the rest of my life on top of it. Recently, she resurfaced in my life, no longer a student but a professional living in the same city. She reached out casually, and I felt something in me spark. Not romance exactly, but a thrill. My wife did not know that I had already crossed that line years ago. I kept a lot of things to myself in the beginning of our open arrangement. As far as she understood, this was a former student I'd once found interesting, nothing more. I said that if anything were to happen now, it would be different. Transparent, consensual, and ethical. My wife did not answer immediately. It took a minute to get her there. I stayed calm. Reasonable. I made it sound like growth. Eventually, half-heartedly, carefully, she said it was okay. |
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Hardly a week goes by in the Esquire offices without a new Seiko landing in the in-box and getting the thumbs-up from someone in the room. Launches arrive at a steady clip, and judging by how often Seiko stories rise to the top of our most-read list, our readers feel much the same. It comes down to scale. There is no other watch brand that caters equally to the casual buyer with a few hundred bucks to spend and the hardened horologist with $10,000 burning a hole in their pocket—a range that has produced a family tree so sprawling it can feel mildly deranged to navigate. |
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On Wednesday morning, Secretary of Defense—who wants you to call him Secretary of War—Pete Hegseth gave a press briefing at the Pentagon about Operation Epic Fury, our limited combat operation in Iran. In his remarks, he insisted that "we are playing for keeps," "we are just getting started," and "Iranian leaders are looking up and seeing only American and Israeli airpower, every minute of every day, until we decide it's over." We have heard "this will not be another endless war" a lot in the past few days, which, as it has all the other times we've heard it, means it's going to go for a very long time. This means we're going to be seeing a lot of Pete Hegseth. If you haven't been keeping up with him, here is a quick Pete Primer to give you some fast facts that may or may not include what the hell is wrong with him. |
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